A July Mash-Up
on the realities of slowing down, the result of a social media detox, a healthy~ish meal plan, inspirational reading ++more
Well, June flew by mighty fast!
I honestly did not feel like I even caught my breath from the whirlwind that was spring. If you have been following along, I created an outline for a June/Summer reset and guided my readers on how to do one, if they felt inclined to do so.
After assessing how the month of June went, I came to the conclusion that I am REALLY bad at slowing down. Although, I have enjoyed embracing a slower morning of not having to rush out of the door with little ones. I am extremely mentally fidgety, always feeling like I need to be doing something. I now have ALL the time to accomplish the never-ending task list I have for myself, and yet, when I get a day where I have had a bad migraine and need to just R E S T, my mind fights me that I am never doing enough.
I was really excited to finally be at home with the kids and taking care of the home again full-time, and still am immensely grateful we were able to do this, but I had this idea that all of my anxiety would suddenly vanish once I left my full-time school job. Unfortunately, the anxiety is still present in other ways. I should know this about myself by now. I am an anxious person, and I will almost always find a way to ruminate about one thing or another.
Taming my anxious thoughts is a work in progress.
This is why I created the reset. I needed to get my body and mind in a more grounded state.
I have to constantly remind myself that there is no rush. Even though I want to get to all of these things, like finally going through the mounds of clothing that I have to sell or donate, there is no timestamp on when these tasks need to be completed. It is just my own internal, very rushed, clock that is telling me everything has to be done in a week.
I now realize, and trying to be okay with the fact, that it is going to take me more than one month to truly unwind from this burnout. I have to break free of the societal mindset (*brainwashing*?) of needing to do, do, do, and go, go, go.
The point of this “sabbatical” was to get away from the “hustle and grind” culture and learn how to embrace the slower, intentional lifestyle that I know would not only benefit my mental and physical health but the health and well-being of those I love the most.
So, after one month of reflecting, writing, resting*, and limiting my exposure to all types of media that I felt were draining me, here is what I figured out and am enjoying – and the future of this little Substack space.
*resting as in, my body forced me to, because my burnout left me with a migraine cluster for almost 2 weeks
THE SOCIAL MEDIA DETOX
This resulted in pulling the plug fully on Instagram. In my June newsletter, I wrote about how social media (well Instagram in particular) has become a place of extremism and how any time spent on there made me feel so drained, I knew I needed to take a break for a month. But after a month free and many “signs” along the way, I have decided to just leave that world behind.
I might eventually write another longer post about this. But to spare you from my ramblings, I would like to share some VERY inspirational articles I read here on Substack that helped validate me (I like validation…), that I do not need to be in that false reality to do what I have set out to do…
In case you too have felt the urge to leave the social media scene, I encourage you to read these posts for *extra* motivation:
(The Commonplace)- Why I’m Leaving Instagram and Leaving Instagram: One Year Later
- Reawakening to the Freedom of Limits and From Feeding Moloch to Digital Minimalism
(Born of Wonder) - Why I Deleted My Social Media
Carissa Pluta () - The Digital Exodus
NUTRITION FOR MENTAL HEALTH
Also, as mentioned in the June newsletter, a purge of the junk food that was accumulating in our home had to take place. With this, there was also some success, we have been ADDING in lots of fresh foods, and replacing the sweets (my cookie and ice cream addiction) with more nutrient-dense treats (cookies and ice cream, but made with *cleaner* ingredients).
I truly beat myself up a lot this month about how much I neglected my health. The shortcuts that I took in food, that was not healthy for my kids or myself. I know we have all been there and it is impossible in our world to be eating 100% clean and healthy all of the time. Even in my healthiest days, I still adhered to the 80/20 rule, I never deprived myself, I just always preferred *because I would feel better* making the more nutrient-loaded treats over the empty calorie ones.
We are finally back to from-scratch cooking and weekly meal planning (for health and budget reasons), I thought it could be helpful to share our meal plan for the week with you as well.
SIDE NOTE THE FUTURE OF THIS SPACE
I am working on refining this newsletter into what I want it to be. Monthly versus weekly, what to share – reflections versus helpful tips and/or favorite things. This newsletter today is a bit of a mash-up of all of it. My mind has been going over and over this, and by August, I should have a better “plan” in place to share with you all! I like having a structure and routine to my writing, but am also trying to give myself some grace, because as I continue on my own life journey, I can see how this place will evolve with that. One of my on-going lessons is to let go of perfection, learn to be more flexible in letting things be what they will be (and surrender a little of the guidance over to Jesus, himself!)
Okay, let’s get back to it –
PSA:: a few affiliate links are included below
WHAT WE ARE COOKING
THIS WEEK’S MEAL PLAN::
Sun:: Greek meatballs and salad with crispy potatoes
Mon:: Beef*and broccoli with fried rice and zucchini hibachi
Tues:: Tostadas
Weds:: Pasta with vodka sauce + baked eggplant + mixed green salad
Thurs:: BLTs + homemade fries
Fri:: Pizza (shortcut TJs crusts; one regular one cauliflower) + mixed green salad
Sat:: Chicken Cobb salad
*I use my standard chicken and broccoli recipe, just replacing the chicken with shaved beef and the chicken stock with beef broth.
Sweet Treats::
Edible cookie dough/bars
Yogurt parfaits (berries, granola, chocolate chips)
Snacks::
Tortilla Chips and salsa
Veggies and hummus
Nuts, cheese, and fruit plate
Pineapple coconut green smoothie
Breakfast::
Eggs with sweet potatoes and bacon
Breakfast tostadas/ burritos
Blueberry Almond (GF) pancakes
Yogurt parfaits — fruit granola almond butter
WHAT I AM LOVING
FOR THE MIND
READING:
Around the Internet– blogs & such:: I have been catching up on this platform, and have discovered so many amazing writers (some of my favorites I listed above with the leaving social media posts). I also would love to share with you
. Her writing is beyond relatable to motherhood and always inspires me to continue to trust Jesus when I am struggling. Another article that I really enjoyed this week was from titled, “The Antidote to Anti-aging Scam.” If you are in your late 30s - 40s, I highly recommend the read.In searching for *more* validation, that social media is not necessary to share my writing. I stumbled across this beautiful website called Soul & Self —
“Soul and Self is an online space to untangle from the striving pace of the world and soften into a creative, joyful life, fuelled by the radiance and heart of natural feminine being” - Belinda Marie
if you have been looking to fully withdraw from the intensity of the “hustle culture” this was a beautiful and motivating corner of the internet to get lost in.
Books:: Reading many, many books has always been my favorite thing to do. I think back to before I had kids and social media, on how many books I would consume each month. I had made a commitment to myself after leaving my job to get back into my reading groove because it is something that has been missing for far too long. Currently, I am reading A Mother’s Rule of Life by Holly Pierlot.
Scripture:: I have been reading the Daily Devo’s that Blessed is She offers. They were an account that I used to love to follow on Instagram, along with most of the writers, but they actually have their own app where you can pray along and I have found it to be another uplifting space, plus it reminds me to take a breath during the day!
GENTLE MEDIA:
Currently listening to the first season soundtrack of Outlander. I still have not started the current season, but it is one of my favorites. And I just love this music. There is nostalgic love that I have had for Scotland for a really long time, not sure where it originated from, I must have lived another life there. Anyways, this music has been on in the background and I find it quite soothing.
FOR THE BODY:
As mentioned above, I have been dealing with a lot of migraines this past month, so I have been trying to relax my body in every way I can. Some of my favorite things I am loving right now::
Ice Roller – It feels amazing on my neck and jaw and over my achy eyes. I am also trying to keep up with this when I don’t have a migraine to keep the tension down in my jaw. I know people say this works to tighten your face too, but I have not used it for this purpose, all I can say is that it feels heavenly.
Body Scrub – I had a leftover Beautycounter scrub from Christmas that I had tucked away to use during the summer months, and glad I did! It felt so good to get all of the ick off and left my skin so refreshed! You don’t have to buy a scrub though, once this one is all used up I will go back to my basic recipe:
DIY BODY SCRUB RECIPE
1 ¼ cup of sugar (brown or granulated work great)
¼ cup olive oil
½ cup coconut oil
If you want to make it extra, add some of your favorite essential oils
Almond oil also is a great sub for olive oil if you have some!
Diffuser – Speaking of essential oils, the diffuser has been running every single day. My current favorite blend is vanilla, lavender, lemon, copaiba and peppermint. I also made this into a body spray!! I spray this all over myself and the kids before bedtime and I feel like it calms all of us down!
FOR THE SOUL
Scripture that I am reflecting on::
Faith is the realization of what is hoped for and evidence of things not seen.
Hebrews 11:1
A Reminder::
Slow Progress, is still Progress
For those who are new, I invite you to check out the “about” page to learn more about Well-Rooted Motherhood and more of what you can expect here (though keep in mind, I am still refining this space a little!)
Thanks for the mention Jennifer :) Happy to hear that you found inspiration and hope that it will help establish a slower more sane pace in your daily life. I am currently creating a page of 'cognitive liberators' - substack writers who have decided to detox or leave social / digital media behind and have written about it. If you do write a post about your experience I will be happy to add it to the page. All the best!
such a kind inclusion, my friend!